Dietrich von Hildebrand is a philosopher who focused on aesthetic, beauty, and ethics in relation to love and marriage. The part of his writing that would serve as the best antidote to the hook-up culture is his focus on conjugal love between a man and a woman because of its link to the possibility of procreation. The biggest issue that created hook-up culture is the fact that society has forgotten that the purpose of sex is to create children and focuses on it simply for pleasure. He writes that “the fact that the closest communion of love between two people produces a new human being mysteriously reflects the fruitfulness of love as such” (Hildebrand 30). Having an understanding that sex is a way of creating fruitful procreation would have the ability to sway members of the hook-up culture into not participating as much.
I personally believe that one of the problems with some of the other philosophers we read is that they shamed sex even in cases of marriage. His ideas on consecrated virginity as equally morally good to having sex within a marriage would antidote hookup culture as well. I think part of the reason more people are participating in casual sex these days is that it is taboo. People like having fun and breaking the rules in order to brag about it to their friends. To take this idea a step further than Hildebrand’s writings, if sex was less taboo maybe hook-up culture would be less of a problem.
Another aspect of Hildebrand’s writing that would help heal the broken wounds of the hookup culture is the complementary aspects of men and women. However, I believe that his argument would need to be changed a little bit to fit modern day times. While he argues that gender roles are what make a marriage good and important, I think we can focus simply on the fact that two people must compliment each other in general to have a healthy marriage. Opposites attract and different personality types who share things in common are what create a proper relationship. Focusing on the idea that a loving relationship where people learn to complement one another prior to sex could help mend hookup culture.
I disagree with the way Hildebrand presented his “compliment” argument because of his need to focus on gender roles. His idea that this union must occur between a man and a woman because of procreation does not make sense. If a woman is unfertile that does not mean a marriage can not take place, so I do not see a problem with gay marriage in terms of procreation.
As far as this blog post question goes, I am not sure that it is completely fair or valid. Some people in this class do not see a problem with hook-up culture, yet the question assumes that we all think it is wrong.